What a mess I have made of everything. I have not felt well so my house is a mess. I have been dealing with my mom's mess for a good long while and have brought the memories from her house into my office and made a mess as I begin to sort through papers, pictures, stuff. My mom was a hoarder, so she lived in mess. I do not want to be like her in that way so my goal is to clean up the office mess this summer, clear out her house mess this summer, and get the additional mess I have gathered on my own.....gone. I hate mess! But....there is more mess to life than stuff mess. Because of my parents living with us and then having to settle their estate with no will I have made a mess of my own finances. It is not easy to gain control of your parents assets when they have not made you their guardian or executor.....so to keep their bills current I paid them from my own money....nursing homes are expensive.....especially when you are self-pay....and because they were....it ended up making a financial mess of my own life. My mother used to tell me that when people take the easy way out it makes a mess for someone else to clean up....I wonder if she realized she did just that to me. Being an only child can really stink sometimes. Life can be messy....when I had small children I chose the mess over cleanliness so that I could spend time playing with and loving on my children. There is nothing sweeter than making mud pies with a child....or finger painting.