My
Scripture for Sunday comes from Matthew 1:18-1:25 Matthew 2:13-2:23
My
sermon is entitled: Oh What A Man
Sunday is FATHERS’ DAY. I want to speak to you about a man -
a FATHER - who is very often overlooked, I think. In some quarters he is
overshadowed by the prominence given to his wife. I’m talking about JOSEPH, the
husband of Mary and the adopted father of Jesus. I don’t think I’ve ever heard
anyone else preach a sermon on Joseph. But I believe it’s a significant thing
that even as God chose Mary to be the one who would give birth to the Son of
God, He chose Joseph to be a FATHER to Jesus and to raise Him into manhood.
Mary and Joseph were chosen together to be parents.
I remember a film that was on television several years ago.
One of those depressingly sad Hallmark movies that when you sit down and watch I
find myself crying all the way through an entire box of Kleenex, and then at
the end I usually say something like: “That was so sad - wasn’t it just
wonderful?!” But this particular film was entitled something like “WHO WILL
LOVE MY CHILDREN?” The story is about a poor family - hard-working parents with
a large number of children - the woman discovers that she has an stage 4 cancer
and will die within a year. Her husband is a good man, but obviously incapable
of looking after the large number of children alone - particularly in those
days when there was no government assistance or social security. And so the
heartbreaking tale is of this mother who goes out searching for loving parents
who will care for all of her children; she wants to have them all placed before
she is dies. (If you ever intend to watch this movie, be warned - it’s
definitely a king-size Kleenex movie!)
But as I recall this film, it leads me to thinking about the
birth of Jesus. Just like that woman who loved her children so much that she
wanted to personally choose parents for them, and not leave it to chance,
Father God in the same way went looking for parents to raise His beloved,
only-begotten Son. He searched the earth, and He found a young girl - a
teenager engaged to be married - of whom the Bible says: she “found favor with
God”. She was a choice young lady. A God-fearing young lady.
But Then….: God also went looking for a father. He called
Mary AND JOSEPH as a couple. And here is the point of it - GOD CLEARLY DEMONSTRATES FOR US THAT THE ROLE OF THE FATHER IS A MOST
IMPORTANT ONE. Fathers are not only needed for the physical act of CONCEIVING a child; they are also
needed for the spiritual act of RAISING a
child. The child was conceived in the womb of Mary “by the Holy Ghost” - a
miracle took place so there was no need for a man to be involved in the
conception. But a man WAS still needed to fill the role of father in Jesus’
childhood.
(HAVING SAID THAT - let me say a word to any single parents
here today. Please don’t despair that your children are beyond hope because
their father is gone, or their mother is gone – that is NOT the case. God is SO
gracious. “Though my father and mother forsake me, yet the Lord will take me
up.”)
The normal pattern is for children to be raised with a father
and a mother. And those single parents, I know, will testify to the multiplied
difficulties when one parent is gone. (Single parents, today, we salute you. We
honor you. God bless you for your diligence with those children!)
So, Joseph was chosen. And just as God had looked for a
godly young woman to bring forth the child, so He looked for a godly man to be
the father. And what an inspiring model of fatherhood Joseph was. God made a
good choice! (He is a WISE God.) Let’s look together, for a few minutes, at
some things the Bible tells us about this man Joseph.
First, would you note with me that he was:
1. A
LOVING MAN. - The Scriptures draw the picture for us of a
wonderfully caring and affectionate man. And we can see this, first, in his
relationship toward Mary.
Look with me at MATTHEW 1:19 - Joseph
finds out that Mary is pregnant. He hasn’t had any great revelation yet. What
is he to think? What would YOU think guys> You’ve fallen in love with this
pretty young girl. You do all the right things. You pursue her in the proper
customary way. In stolen moments you’ve talked with her about dreams for a
future together. A cottage with a white picket fence. A family. A business. And
then out of the blue you learn that this sweet girl (you thought you knew so
well) is pregnant. NEWLY pregnant. And you don’t know who the father is - but
there is one person you know you can rule out! How does it make you feel?
Angry? Betrayed? The penalty for adultery in the Old
Testament was death by stoning. And this penalty applied to infidelity during
betrothal as well as marriage. Upon discovery that Mary was pregnant, Joseph
would have been obliged to divorce her (DIVORCE
WAS REQUIRED TO BREAK OFF A BETROTHAL ENGAGEMENT), and this would expose
Mary to public shame and humiliation.
BUT, even before God spoke to Joseph - Joseph didn’t have
any vengeance or bitterness in his heart. The Bible says: he “was minded to put
her away secretly”. (There were ways in which a divorce could be enacted very
quietly, without the involvement of a judge, and Joseph was already considering
the best way to do this. Joseph was
kind. He LOVED Mary. And husbands, the Bible says to US today that
WE must love our wives with all that we have. In Ephesians 5:25 - the example
is that we must love our wives sacrificially, even as Christ loved the church
and lay down His life for it. Joseph was
a loving man toward Mary. But we also
see that Joseph was a loving man in his relationship toward Jesus.
…When the child came along - the child he had not conceived
- there was no attitude in Joseph that “THIS
BOY ISN’T MY FLESH AND BLOOD”. There was no resentment or indifference
toward Him; no lack of love at all. JOSEPH
ADOPTED JESUS AS HIS OWN. He protected Him from the hatred of Herod. He
nurtured Him and cared for Him. Evidently he taught Jesus his own trade of
carpentry. HE ADOPTED THE ONE THAT THE
REST OF THE WORLD WOULD REJECT.
TODAY, by
contrast, we see men who are prepared to abdicate their role even toward their
own children. Men are opting out of the father role because of it’s costs. Do
you know what the Bible says? [1 TIMOTHY
5:8]: says… “But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially
those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an
unbeliever!”
Joseph was a LOVING man. That’s the first thing that is clear.
SECOND: Joseph was . . . A DEVOUT MAN.
a.) He
was a man who OBEYED God. - He explicitly followed the
Lord’s leading and direction. He didn’t follow his own marked-out plan for life
- he wanted God’s plan for his life. So when God spoke to him in a dream and
told him to marry Mary (even though she was pregnant) HE OBEYED.
Then when God spoke and said: “Take Mary and Jesus and flee
to Egypt for safety” - he immediately obeyed. He closed up his business and
left.
Then when God said: “It’s O.K. now, head back to Israel”.
again he did as he was directed. He was a man of obedience.
Joseph
was a man of FAITH. – Let me tell you….It takes FAITH to pack your
bags and head off to a foreign country with no prospects and no planning;
simply on the basis that God said so. He had faith and obeyed the dream. He
could have made excuses to stay where the prospects looked good, but NO - he was
a man of faith.
FATHERS here this morning, your faith will speak to your
children! Raise them in an environment of faith toward God.
I read the story of a farmer who had toiled over a bumper
crop of grain - a badly needed crop of grain - a badly needed crop that was
going to pay off many creditors and secure the family for another year. But
just a few days before it was due to be harvested a freak wind and hail storm
ravaged the property, and the harvest was lost. The man stood with his little
boy looking over the fields of destroyed grain. The boy expected to hear his
father cursing in despair. But instead his Dad began to softly sing: “Rock of
Ages cleft for me, let me hide myself in Thee.” Years later that boy, now grown into manhood, said: “That was the
greatest sermon I ever heard!” His father had shown him FAITH where the rubber
meets the road!
Joseph was leaning on God. He was a man of FAITH. And one
more thing: He was a man who was FAITHFUL IN SPIRITUAL DUTY. He set an example for his family - going
to the Temple; attending the feasts. (We read about it in LUKE 2:41) He was regular in going to God’s house.
When my son was a little boy he was playing on a Sunday
morning while his Dad was in a recliner reading the paper. His dad said: “Son,
get yourself ready for Sunday School”. To which Eric asked: “Are you coming
with me today Dad?” His father replied: “No, I’m not coming. But I want you to
hurry up and get ready”. Eric then said: “Did you used to go to Sunday School
when you were a boy, Dad?” He said: “I most certainly did!” As he walked away Eric
mumbled: “Yeah, and I bet it won’t do me any good either! I can’t wait til I am old enough to stay home
from church.” I cried all the way to
church. Our kids are watching our faithfulness.
So, let’s just re-cap for a moment. Joseph was a LOVING man.
(Toward his wife. Toward his son. Toward his whole family.) He was a DEVOUT
man. ( A man of obedience and faith, and being faithful in spiritual
duty.) And Finally, he was also: A WISE
MAN. Joseph was wise because he
lived as one who REDEEMED THE TIME. By all accounts it seems that Joseph had
a SHORTENED LIFE. We don’t read of him after Jesus’ childhood, and at the Cross
Jesus charged John with the care of His mother - so it seems that Joseph was
taken from them prematurely. But JOSEPH HAD USED WHAT TIME HE HAD BEEN GIVEN
HONOURABLE - WISELY! He had provided for his family. He has set an example for
them that they would remember. He had raised them in the nurture and the
admonition of the Lord.
Jesus was not the only child he had; he raised other boys
for the Lord also, and possibly daughters as well. He had other sons - TWO OF
THEM (at least) WERE GREATLY USED BY GOD. They wrote books of the Bible (James
and Jude). James was leader of the church in Jerusalem. Joseph raised his children in the ways of the
Lord, and He left behind him a legacy after his lifetime.
Fathers! None of us know just how much time we have left
with our children; with our families. You may only have a year. Two years. Five
years. Who knows? Only God! ARE WE
REDEEMING THE TIME AS JOSEPH DID? Encouraging our families at every
opportunity; setting an example; providing for their needs.
Some say, “Oh YES. I provide for my family” - when what they
mean is that they put a pay cheque on the table every week. But what about the
OTHER provisions they need from you?
Affection?
Example? Godly counsel? Laughter and warmth?
Loving concern? This man, Joseph, inspires me. I’m sure
that he wasn’t perfect - BUT HE WAS DEVOTED, and he was doing his very best -
redeeming the time.
HAPPY
FATHERS’ DAY.