Isaiah 6:8

8 Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?”And I said, “Here am I. Send me!”

Thursday, July 9, 2009

Happy Birthday Momma!

Today is my momma's birthday. She is 80 years old today and I want to wish her a very happy day. I know she will have one because she lives in her own little world. I am throwing a huge party for her on Saturday at the Arbor. She is going to be so surprised. My mom is a character. Life with my mom has not always been easy. There was a time when it was Camelotesque....but those days were only for "One brief shining moment," and before my brother died. When Dougie died my mom had a hard time coping with the loss. She still does. He has been dead since I was 9 and that was 48 years ago....and we still don't talk about him....we still don't know what she did with his pictures or the 8mm films...or the painting Burdines gave us....it is as if he never existed....but I have a child too...and I know that losing Kat would cause me to lose my mind I am sure. I can't imagine what that must have been like for her. I only know how hard it was for me. My mom is funny...simple...sweet (to most people)...oblivious to life as it is now...devoted to my father...and lives in another place. Sometimes I don't understand her place...but then I am not supposed to. My mother suffers from dementia and lives in the house with me. I am just glad that right now...she knows who I am. You have to understand...I left home at eighteen to get away from her...and she found me anyways. I love having she and my dad with me...because I know there won't be any regrets when they pass away...I will have experienced life with them during their final days. I have not always lived near my folks...and I am glad that right now I have them where I can keep and eye on them both. My husband...has lost both of his parents and lived far away from them when they were sick and died. He regrets not having been there when they died...hopefully I won't have to deal with that guilt when my time comes to face it. Today, my Aunt Shirley (the one with cancer) and I are taking my mom out for lunch. My aunt does not ever miss my mom's birthday. They fight like two cats sometimes...but they really do love each other...and I love them both. I have invited 80 people to this birthday shindig on Saturday...and will have to watch my parents closely for it to work. I can't let them go get the mail without some sort of time restraints....or they will take off rambling...and then she will miss her party....and believe you me...I would not put that past her at all. Wish me luck in pulling this off....and join me in wishing my mom Happy 80th Birthday! Oh...and if your mom is still around...hug her today...or call her and let her know you love her. She will appreciate it!

3 comments:

lagirl said...

Happy Birthday to you Momma!
She has endured a lot and sometimes one simply bears ones burder the only way they know how, as I imagine she must have when your brother died. Very sad on so many levels...But the great news is she is turning 80!! So wonderful she has been given many years. God bless you for all you do for her and your Dad. I just KNOW in my heart that the party will be perfect!!

Mid-Atlantic Martha said...

Happy Birthday greetings to your momma! My mother also had alzheimers. We had a 50th wedding anniversary party for my parents that I wouldn't miss for anything in the world -- I'm not sure she quite understood what was going on and she got agitated when she saw pictures that were from her home in the fellowship hall at church -- she tried to sneak them away -- but we're so glad that we were able to do that, because amost exactly a month later she passed away. I hope your mother and you enjoy the celebration. Hugs!

carlag8r said...

Karen, please tell my Aunt Wilma happy birthday! I have the most pleasant memories of growing up two doors down from your parents... (sorry I was too young to be around for much of the time that you lived there as well). I'm sure it will be an AWESOME party!